-Jan Scholten
The afterthought
Calcarea lactic is a new remedy.
Concepts
Calcarea Lactica
Uncertain Girl
Observed Childish
Sensitive to criticism Dependent
What do others think Feminine
Protecting
Withdrawing
Group analysis
An uncertain little girl.
Your are only a girl: you don’t count.
Others think she is only a girl.
Seen as the little girl: the youngest child,the afterthought.
Others think she is still dependent.
Doesnt want others to see that she feels like a frightened little girl.
Withdraws into her little girl state.
Picture of Calcarea lactica
Essence: an uncertain little girl.
An uncertain little girl
They feel very uncertain, as if they are still a little girl and don’t really count. They wont be asked to partake in the real business, the grown up world. If they promise to be good they will be allowed to sit and watch quietly, but they shouldnt enter the discussion because they are not old enough.
This sort of situation can come about when the youngest child in the family is an afterthought and a little girl on top of that.
The parents and the older children are discussing some important issue, but she is not allowed to join in because she is too young. As the years go by the age difference doesnt get any less, so the situation remains the same and the pattern is fixed. Even though she has grown up in the meantime and is quite old enough to have her say, she is still seen as the little sister who should keep her mouth shut.
Others think her only a little girl
They can’t stand being seen as the little girl. They get very annoyed when others give her a little pat on the shoulder, saying don’t worry little one, everything will be all right, but they don’t show that it upsets them.
Withdraws into her little girl state
But somewhere deep inside they really feel like a little girl who is weak and small and afraid to participate in the big wide world. They don’t like to show this weakness however and prefer to give the impression that they are quite happy to remain in the background because they are not particularly interested in airing their views anyway.
Expressions
Fears: being abnormal, loss, disease, poverty, future, mistakes, anticipation, being watched by the village, judged on their values, heights, failure, criticism, opposition, anticipation.
Dreams: futile efforts, paralysis.
Mental: perfectionists.
Generals
Type: fat and weak.
Locality: left.
Weather: cold, (